Wedding invites are the first part of your wedding that most of your guests will see. Not only do they introduce the style and colours of your big day, they also contain all the vital
information o that everyone gets to the right place at the right time!
But what should you actually put into your wedding invitations?
I mean, some invitations are so detailed they're like a book, whilst others are barely longer than a Tweet and leave you wondering if something has been missed out!
Below, I have listed all the various things I have seen people putting into their invitations and split them into 'must have' and 'could have', which has a sub-division for RSVPs
(which technically aren't essential, but if you're including them you should know how do to it!)
Before we get to the list, I just want to talk to you about one thing that a lot of people struggle with, and that is how to actually phrase the invitations. I would say that, unless
you're going for a super-formal wedding where etiquette must be strictly followed (in which case there are many excellent resources out there, of which I am not one), just phrase it
however you want. One of my favourites had the couple's children inviting guests to the wedding of their mummy and daddy, which was very cute. Generally speaking though, whoever is
paying for the wedding does the inviting:
So if the Bride's parents are paying for the whole thing, it would be something like 'Mr & Mrs Smith invite you to the
wedding of their daughter Mary and Mr John Jones', and the same for if the groom's parents are paying only with the couple's names reversed.
If both set of parents are paying, then you can either have 'Mr and Mrs Smith and Mr and Mrs Jones invite you to the wedding
of their children Mary and John' or 'The parents of Mary Smith and John Jones invite you to their wedding on…'
If the couple are paying part of the bill, and their parents are contributing too, then it would be 'Together with their
parents, Mary Smith and John Jones invite you to their wedding'. This is also a useful phrasing if the parents of the couple have remarried, as otherwise the introduction can get
very long and complicated!
If the couple are paying for the whole wedding, then it would be 'Mary Smith and John Jones invite you to their
If you don't care about any of that, do what you like! Recently, I've seen a lot of 'Mary Smith and John Jones are getting
married! Please join us to celebrate' and you know what? That's fine too. It's your wedding, if you don't want to do something the traditional way, then don't!
Right, onto the list. Let's start with the essentials:
What you must include
Time of ceremony/time of arrival
Reception location if different
RSVP by [date]
RSVP to [postal address, email address or phone number]
What you could include
Public transport details
Gift list/money poem
Requests from venue e.g. no confetti
Kids welcome/adults only event (if you're not having children at your wedding, make this very clear but frame it as a
benefit for the parents, e.g. we are choosing to have an adults-only wedding, so parents please hire a babysitter and party with us all night!)
If including an RSVP card, you must include
Will/Will not be attending
Space for guest's names
Address to return to if not in main invite
RSVP could also include
Reminder of when to RSVP by
Space for special diet requirements
Space for song requests
Anything else that would help you make your wedding better for you and your guests
I hope that's helpful! If you would like a printable invitation content checklist, make sure you sign up for my newsletter so you can get the password for The Den, where you can find
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